I feel like this phrase is used as a nicer way of saying "fuck boys," which I don't believe what the biblical phrase is actually referring to. I am probably exaggerating but I'm willing to bet that that phrase is used closer to the above statement than to its biblical meaning.
The idea, I believe, is that if you guard your heart, you will not be hurt. Instead, some day, the right person that you "save yourself for" will come, and he/she (also applies to men, but this term is definitely used more by women) will come and this person will never hurt you. Then you will continue your unhurtful, perfect and shiny relationship forever into the sunset. On a pony. In France. And only with a ring that's worth three month's of his salary. That's exactly what Solomon meant in Proverbs when he wrote that. Evidently, I have a huge bias and some bitterness, and I admit it -- but I'll still continue.
Honestly, I couldn't tell you what "guarding your heart" really means. Nor am I some relationship expert; admittedly, I'm quite the opposite. But this is what I do know: Jesus didn't guard his heart, in the sense of the phrase that we know--he didn't shield himself from hurt; in fact his willingness to embrace hurt and accusation (embracing accusations) gave him a greater capacity to love, one that no one had ever seen before. Therefore, guarding your heart can't mean avoiding hurt.
I don't think it means chasing after hurt, but it definitely doesn't mean avoiding it. That's as much of a conclusion as I can make on this phrase.
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