I had dinner with LD today. We seem to hit it off very well, even though I haven't talked to her in...more than a year. At least a good conversation. And not hitting it off, as in potential gf (besides, she already has a bf), but just good conversation-wise. We talked abut AAIV leadership, and I shared about worship team, and how I really enjoy it. She shared about how she wanted to apply to leadership, worship team specifically, but had never really done it.
Most importantly, however, she shared about how she felt about Northwestern compared to her high school friends. She felt like she wasn't making any "lifelong friends" at NU. That all her lifelong friends were at home. "This year I don't remember hanging out with anyone after Focus."
Now, sure, that doesn't sound bad, but it has such deep implications. She has no one to go to on this campus, no one do life with, to share her burden, and she does seem to be going through many burdens. LD seems to have come to terms with it already. She said if she's not working, practicing, or doing work, she's sleeping. She's a busy person.
But social life, fellowship life is such a big portion of college. (Sidenote: Do I consider the two, the same?) It would be such a waste to go through 4 years of college and not gain a few lifelong friends along the journey. My mom has no friends from college, all her best friends are from high school.
I shared this because I remember how she felt. From sharing my blog with DL today, I started wondering what kind of blog posts I wrote when I was going through such tough times. I didn't write much. Maybe I was in denial, maybe I didn't want friends from home to think I was having a tough time in college, when college was painted to be this amazing time.
But college is so much more rewarding when you invest in people. I pray for LD, that she invests and finds friends to trust and do life with at college.
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